The Importance of Thank You’s!

October 11, 2013

Most people know it’s polite to thank gift givers, but there’s more to it than saying or emailing a simple “Thank you” for a wedding gift.  If someone has gone to the trouble of giving you a present for your new marriage, you can take the time to send a handwritten thank you card.  Make sure you keep a running list of all the gifts as they come in so you don’t forget where everything came from.

Preprinted cards: Rather than send a preprinted thank you card, opt for a blank card or one with a graphic design that shows your personality.  Add a personal note to express how much the gift means to you.

Hosts: After the wedding showers and engagement parties, don’t forget to send thank you cards to the hosts.

Shower gift cards: Immediately after the shower, sit down and write out thank you notes.  That will help you keep up with the amount of cards you’ll have to send.  If someone attends more than one shower, send a separate thank you note for each gift.

Ink: Use either black or blue ink on white, cream, or light gray card stock.  It’s easier on the eyes than purple ink on pink paper.

What to include in the note: Mention something specific about the gift and let the person know how much it means to you.  If it’s money, you might say that it’s going into an anniversary or furniture savings account.  Guests who had to travel to attend your shower or wedding will appreciate that being acknowledged.  You can also add an extra comment if you can think of a one-line snippet that is specific to the person.

Return address: Include the return address so the recipient will have it for holiday and birthday greetings.

When to send: It’s always a good idea to send thank you cards right away, but most people don’t expect to hear back before or during the honeymoon.  Mail shower and engagement party thank you cards immediately after the event.  As soon as you get home from the honeymoon, start writing the notes for gifts from the wedding ceremony and reception.  Everyone should receive a thank you card within two months after the honeymoon is over.

No matter what, SEND A THANK YOU!  It’s never too late to show your appreciation!  And, don’t forget about sending your parents and bridal party THANK YOU’s as well!